Very. Yet, I am not of the most common subtype. I share plenty of traits with them with the most common subtypes. I make deep connections with people quickly and am much less censored in my topics of conversation. I memorize social rules much more than I read social cues. I tend to come acrossContinue reading “How Autistic Am I?”
Tag Archives: Asexuality
Subepistimes and Cultural Stereotypes
What is sexuality like? The truth is that is a terrible question. Sexuality is not like anything. There is no such thing as sexuality. There are spectrums of sexualty and romantic attraction defined by quantity of intensity and quality of form. Alas, there is very little vocabulary in the public discourse that describes most ofContinue reading “Subepistimes and Cultural Stereotypes”
The Spectrum Between Romance and Platonic Realtionships
As a heteroromantic asexual, I view it as inappasite to classify the type of relationship I would want to be the same as a hetererosexual. Fundamentally, a heterosexual wants different things. Also, as someone with a disability, I have different needs. For example, for someone with a lower-functioning disability, combining maternalism and romance may beContinue reading “The Spectrum Between Romance and Platonic Realtionships”
Disability & Metaphorical Asexuality
I refer not to literal asexuality in the sense of being an asexual and I don’t refer to not having sex in the literal sense. I have written about incels before on this blog and their etiology is not the lack of sex but their being adults in an adult culture with an adolscent-style leagueContinue reading “Disability & Metaphorical Asexuality”
Religion & Romance
In the imaginations of many, religion is the enemy of romance since the climax of romance is literal climaxing for most of them. For those who have religion, religion is not a constituent in the emotions of their affections. Yet, romance, to me, is impossible in the positivist, materialist, and secular universe. Religion is manyContinue reading “Religion & Romance”
Asexuality & Innocence
Perhaps, unsurprisingly, the chief characteristic of asexuals is innocence. I think to the vintage sex ed videos from the 1950s and 60s where a mature narrator starts talking about “changes” during puberty and it is there where the great divorce happens because the difference between an asexual and sexual worldview is one of philosophical, ideological,Continue reading “Asexuality & Innocence”
Flirting on the Spectrum
My approach to flirting is… I don’t, I just talk to people near me about whatever I think will interest them enough to talk to me. The world of romance, sex, and dating is something adults who adult do and getting anywhere close to it in conversation elicits a nervousness in me that the otherContinue reading “Flirting on the Spectrum”
Foucault and Asexuality
I thoroughly dislike Foucault but there are elements of his philosophy that I do subscribe to. This article is going to focus on his ideas on the social construction of sexual orientation. Now, sexual orientation is not socially constructed. The categories of hetero, homo, an a sexual are social constructs but not the orientations, themselves.Continue reading “Foucault and Asexuality”
Boundaries in a Wasteland
People with disabilities often don’t live in the metaphhorical troposphere. That is the world of dating, drama, gossip, parties, substance use, and, generally, the sweaty, dark, and blackllit world adults are stereotyped as living in. For many, it is a world of long periods of silence broken by the occasional oasis of a platonic coffeeContinue reading “Boundaries in a Wasteland”
Gender Borderlands: The Frontier of the Cis and Straight
In the realm of gender studies there is a glaring omission, that of the frontiers. I am a cis, straight, male and I am a heteroromantic asexual tomgirl. I fall into a macro category that would suggest that I’m something that I’m not. That I am a man in the masculine sense of that term.Continue reading “Gender Borderlands: The Frontier of the Cis and Straight”
The Autistic Resistance 