Asexuality & Innocence

Perhaps, unsurprisingly, the chief characteristic of asexuals is innocence. I think to the vintage sex ed videos from the 1950s and 60s where a mature narrator starts talking about “changes” during puberty and it is there where the great divorce happens because the difference between an asexual and sexual worldview is one of philosophical, ideological,Continue reading “Asexuality & Innocence”

Martyrdom, Love, and Fear

In my recent article “Flirting on the Spectrum”, I write about how awkwardness can lead to false red flags and how the world being at DEFCON ONE prevents romance. I have never had that type of fear and it isn’t just because I’m male but because I am not that afraid of death or harmContinue reading “Martyrdom, Love, and Fear”

Purveying Morality in the Public Sphere

How does the public sphere purvey a moral system? The government funds art and it could grant subsidies to artists with positive messages. The obvious, and stupid, Rawlsian retort would be “who chooses what is moral?” Traditional virtues of love, kindness, honesty, humility, grace, mercy, love, education, etc… are not controversial between the major religionsContinue reading “Purveying Morality in the Public Sphere”

Flirting on the Spectrum

My approach to flirting is… I don’t, I just talk to people near me about whatever I think will interest them enough to talk to me. The world of romance, sex, and dating is something adults who adult do and getting anywhere close to it in conversation elicits a nervousness in me that the otherContinue reading “Flirting on the Spectrum”

Bernie Sanders is not a Hippie

I worked on the Bernie Sanders campaign but I have major issues with the Bernie movement. They are the same issues I have with much of the left. Alexandra Ocasio-Cortez is not a hero of mine but she would be one if she dressed up like Victorian heriess, speaking with a fake posh southern EnglishContinue reading “Bernie Sanders is not a Hippie”

Nobody Deserves Anything: The Menu of Punishment or Atonement

The very concept of punishment is primitive and stupid. When I was in my high school gay-straight alliance, there was a general push for anti-bullying policies and, despite my being the victim of worse bullying than most of them, I would never have wanted to press charges in the school conduct system, much less, legally.Continue reading “Nobody Deserves Anything: The Menu of Punishment or Atonement”

Gender Borderlands: The Frontier of the Cis and Straight

In the realm of gender studies there is a glaring omission, that of the frontiers. I am a cis, straight, male and I am a heteroromantic asexual tomgirl. I fall into a macro category that would suggest that I’m something that I’m not. That I am a man in the masculine sense of that term.Continue reading “Gender Borderlands: The Frontier of the Cis and Straight”

The Pseudo-Woke: The Dangers of Cynicism in Politics

So long as I have been in politics, one of the consistent emotions that has been expected of me and everyone else in a group is cynicism. Especially, on the left where I spend and have spent most of my time. In the ranks of the left according to the other activists, those who areContinue reading “The Pseudo-Woke: The Dangers of Cynicism in Politics”

Subgenders within Genders: Tomboys, Tomgirls, Betas, and Alphas

In recent years, the transgendered have become a major recognized identity but they are a tiny fraction of the population. As far as gender differences are concerned, subgenders are much more important because people belong to subgenders within their cisgender genders much more than are fully transgender. I am a male so I will mostlyContinue reading “Subgenders within Genders: Tomboys, Tomgirls, Betas, and Alphas”

What You Didn’t Know About Asexuality: The Testament of an Asexual

                As my bio on this website states, I am an asexual. For most of my life, I identified as a heterosexual. Since I subscribed to the falsehood that boys who like girls are heterosexual. Yet, there was a culture around me obsessed with things I had no interest in. I thought girls were prettyContinue reading “What You Didn’t Know About Asexuality: The Testament of an Asexual”