Dogwhistles and Karens: A Kinder, Gentler, Sadism

When talking about prejudice, for the most part, one must have explicit and gory stories or evidence of maltreatment for people to take it seriously. Luckily, I have that. Yet, it doesn’t cover the overwhelming majority of the inhumanity I have endured. Most of the overt bullying was “circus monkey” bullying for which my bulliesContinue reading “Dogwhistles and Karens: A Kinder, Gentler, Sadism”

The Dark Side of Autism

Ariana Grande, in her piece, Thirteen Reasons Why, said she was trying to be so “real”. The revenge fantasy followed too many stereotypes to be real. The plot was a Nancy Grace “True Crime” episode about a victimized suburban white girl. As a religious man, I can say that God weeps just as much forContinue reading “The Dark Side of Autism”

Gender Borderlands: The Frontier of the Cis and Straight

In the realm of gender studies there is a glaring omission, that of the frontiers. I am a cis, straight, male and I am a heteroromantic asexual tomgirl. I fall into a macro category that would suggest that I’m something that I’m not. That I am a man in the masculine sense of that term.Continue reading “Gender Borderlands: The Frontier of the Cis and Straight”

Trauma and Autism

For therapy to be effective it is usually required that the cuases of one’s trauma be sympathetic. If they refect upon one’s reputation unsympathetically then it is sometimes almost impossible to get effective treatment. Many of the earliest articles on this blog concerned themselves with the overreaction to minor social mistakes. A serious reason forContinue reading “Trauma and Autism”

The System To Handle Bullying

When I expound on my history of being bullied, my tactics regarding how I handled it are almost universally objected to. That of peer-to-peer diplomacy as opposed to beating them up or involving vice principals or the police. The idea that I forgave them is also either shocking to or opposed by them. Yet, ironically,Continue reading “The System To Handle Bullying”

The Normative Ethics of Ghosting

One of the concerning phenomenon of the Zoomer generation is the ubiquity with which they ghost. If this were just a means of ending romantic or sexual relationships, that would be one thing. Yet, platonic and professional relationships are equally or almost equally the subject of it. Ghosting is, when not avoiding a truly dangerousContinue reading “The Normative Ethics of Ghosting”

Paradoxes of the Suicide Rate

Is society opposed to suicide? While as a normative value, by the indications of its expressed position, it is resoundingly opposed to suicide and wishes to reduce the incidence of it to the maximum degree possible the suicide rate in Western societies is exploding. Curious is it that a society with such a strong normativeContinue reading “Paradoxes of the Suicide Rate”

How to Represent Asexuality in the Media

According to many surveys the answer to that is around 1% but those surveys are probably worded incorrectly to ascertain an accurate figure since it most likely measures what are known as hard asexuals. Asexuals who lack any attraction whatsoever. If the heteroromantic, homoromantic, and biromantic asexuals were taken into account, and you include peopleContinue reading “How to Represent Asexuality in the Media”

Liberality and Reticence

                I’ve written a lot about grudges and how quick people are to hate over so little so intensely for so long. And the increase in loneliness and the decline in romantic relationships. All of these fall along the spectrum of liberality versus reticence. In the earlier article where I illustrate the differences in theContinue reading “Liberality and Reticence”

Running a Friendship: Aspie Style

While this is about platonic friendships, I’ll begin with something less than platonic: flirting. Flirting has been explained to me as attempting to romantically or sexually woo a partner without them realizing it, usually with a stranger.  It seems dishonest because it is and I would never do it. It represents the deceit with whichContinue reading “Running a Friendship: Aspie Style”