Perhaps, unsurprisingly, the chief characteristic of asexuals is innocence. I think to the vintage sex ed videos from the 1950s and 60s where a mature narrator starts talking about “changes” during puberty and it is there where the great divorce happens because the difference between an asexual and sexual worldview is one of philosophical, ideological,Continue reading “Asexuality & Innocence”
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Mental Illness and Reputation
The worst long-term effect of a mental illness, after recovery, is the lost reputation owing to stupid and embarassing shit you did while lacking lucidity. I have a long litany of these things. Not just from mental illness but my neurological condition, too. Asperger’s social mistakes, panic attacks, anxiety attacks, depressive episodes, and more. IContinue reading “Mental Illness and Reputation”
The Right to Humanity
Is it a tragedy if someone with a disability is denied, by social convention, the fruits of human life? I am not referring mostly to sex and romance but that is an easy example to use. The left has a contradictory relationship with sex and romance being constituent in a full life. Like with otherContinue reading “The Right to Humanity”
How Should Social Media be Reformed
While there are minor reforms that I could discuss such as forcing feeds to be integrated like happened with email in the 1990s, before which Compuserve, Prodigy, Interland, the like had seperate services and one could not recieve an email from another email service. My birth was blogged by my father on Prodigy but itContinue reading “How Should Social Media be Reformed”
Pseudocreepiness Versus Creepiness
The term “creep” has major issues. Foremost among them, a word that subjective can’t be as lethal as it is. The same adjective applied to an awkward teenager should not be used for a child molester. Many women do not consider the character of Christian Grey to be creepy but a guy talking to themContinue reading “Pseudocreepiness Versus Creepiness”
Truth & Reconciliation
We live in a very vindictive culture and the peace process of clearing the air in interpersonal relationships is mostly never attempted. In my experience, late millennials and Gen Z, especially, but people generally, are incapable of forgiveness, clearing the air, or any type of kinship or fraternity with people with whom they have hadContinue reading “Truth & Reconciliation”
Martyrdom, Love, and Fear
In my recent article “Flirting on the Spectrum”, I write about how awkwardness can lead to false red flags and how the world being at DEFCON ONE prevents romance. I have never had that type of fear and it isn’t just because I’m male but because I am not that afraid of death or harmContinue reading “Martyrdom, Love, and Fear”
Charity versus Justice in Disability Advocacy
First, let’s define both terms. Justice is the rectifying of and atonement for wrongs which does not equate to punitive measures. In the context of disability advocacy, charity is being someone’s friend while justice is standing up to bullies, mediating an apology, and enacting policies or creating social mores which on a broad level changeContinue reading “Charity versus Justice in Disability Advocacy”
A Look Back at Twilight, Philosophically
During the criticism of the Twilight Saga over a decade ago, one criticism was remarkably absent. The critics focussed on literary quallity but that’s purely subjective and I am against trashing the honest effort of a writer who invested energy and pride into their work. Stephanie Meyer did not earn my cynicism for her low-qualityContinue reading “A Look Back at Twilight, Philosophically”
Boundaries in a Wasteland
People with disabilities often don’t live in the metaphhorical troposphere. That is the world of dating, drama, gossip, parties, substance use, and, generally, the sweaty, dark, and blackllit world adults are stereotyped as living in. For many, it is a world of long periods of silence broken by the occasional oasis of a platonic coffeeContinue reading “Boundaries in a Wasteland”
The Autistic Resistance 